Hello everyone! Me again! (:
Who am I? It is me, Bükre.
♩ ♪ ♫ ♬ Libertad — Al Bano & Romina Power
I actually came to you with this kind of questions in my basket.
There will also be a sentence that I would like to dwell on. From the moment we are born, we meet and try to get to know others, including ourselves. This is a lifelong process as long as you don’t try to shut yourself down completely. If you like, you can take it like finding a letter which has “Who are you?” in it. But my question is at the end of the article. Let’s get acquainted with some questions. How do we know whom, do we even know ourselves?
In many places, we hear that being a role model and communication are based on attitudes and behaviours rather than words. In fact, words account for 10% of our face-to-face interactions while speaking, tone of voice accounts for 30% and body language accounts for 60%. While thinking about these, on the other hand, my heart is shifting to analytical philosophy. According to analytical philosophy, the main field of philosophy is language. According to analytical philosophers, the task of philosophy is to analyze language. Because they say, correct information can only be obtained in this way.
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I watched the video that Sebastian Vettel published on behalf of his retirement from Formula 1 life soon. After describing himself and asking “Who am I?”, they counted many things after his name… Discovering what he wants and what he doesn’t want… his little smiles when he says new generation. I was very impressed.
“Who am I? I am Sebastian…
Do I know myself that well? Can I boldly say that I’m like that, I can be annoying sometimes…
Do you know yourself? Do you really know? Who do you know actually? Who, how much?
“Talk is not enough and we cannot afford to wait.
There is no alternative.
The race is underway.”
Sebastian Vettel***
From the first moment we are born, we begin to recognize faces. Kang Lee says that babies’ ability to recognize faces in the early stages affects their learning, adaptive skills, and overall survival.
“Who is someone I can trust?
Who is someone I cannot trust?”
(Kang Lee, Professor, Dr. Eric Jackman Institute of Child Study, University of Toronto, Canada)
Before we complete our first year in this world, we can even distinguish monkey faces, and we can distinguish sounds in some languages that sound extremely similar to us. But as our neural networks grow and develop in our minds, which give importance to human faces — especially mothers’ faces — as they grow, other ones disappear as well. Then our ability to recognize faces goes away, and we only know them as “monkeys” as a group.
This reminded me a bit of “men” and “women” as general titles. Although there is no certain information on the basis of the neural network, can the defense mechanisms and learned helplessness received from traumas and experiences make us hit such an obstacle before getting to know the person? This part is exactly the point that wakes me up. Of course, there is no scientific record of the adult brain and this relationship. Even if there is, I haven’t read it yet :)
We have a world where even language is not enough. Even if babies’ biological needs are met, if they do not communicate with people and are not exposed to language, they suffer serious damage. As a result of such damage, serious bans are even coming… (Roger Shattuck “The Forbidden Experiment”)
Maybe people who read Incognito (Incognito: The Secret Life of the Brain by David Eagleman) can understand me a little more closely. Sometimes the miracle of our lower brain can really fascinate people, especially when we are trying to consciously solve it and understand it better. For example, I like it when there is a movie that I can’t understand sometimes. I feel like reminding myself that you can’t do everything when you want to. Not always, obviously. Mostly, people want to achieve, understand and be able to do it. At what point, can we be free?
To learn, to be familiar with a face, to know if it is reliable.
To meet and get to know…
Then I come to the sentence “Nice to meet you”. Don’t you think we make it too ordinary when using it in daily life? And aren’t we acting too soon? As yet, only names were heard and a few words. Maybe we won’t be very pleased afterwards. Was this meeting good enough to feel satisfied? Did we really say it with that feeling, genuinely?
How do we meet ourselves for the first time? With our name? That ability to analyze people’s faces in babies to see if I can “trust them”; does it apply to our own facial expressions, our own attitudes and behaviors?
“Is it really nice to meet you?”
“Can I trust you?”
♩ ♪ ♫ ♬ La mer est calme — Ben Mazué
